11 things I would say to the young 22-year-old E4 with no degree or job lined up, if I saw him today
Today marks 11 years of getting out of the US Army.
1/ Your MOS and rank do not define what your future is.
Don't sell yourself short. It's a chance to reinvent yourself.
2/ It will take some time to get your individual identity back.
The military is excellent at breaking your individuality down to be part of a team. Unfortunately, when you get out, it does not piece you back together as an individual. So, it will take some time to build yourself back up. Be kind and patient with yourself.
3/ Many people want to see you succeed, but ultimately, success is in your hands.
People and organizations are dedicated to helping you thrive but you need to own your transition. Remember to give and not just take.
4/ You are now part of one of the best networks out there.
I'd take the military alumni network over any universities. Veterans exist in every industry, and being part of this community, you can cold DM or email your way to your next opportunity.
5/ There will be times when you wish you were back in.
You'll miss the camaraderie and even the simplicity of life. It's the people you miss, so go call your buddies.
6/ Keep up with your PT.
Your physical and mental health will thank you.
7/ You don't have to start from zero.
You can reframe many skills, principles, and experiences from the military (yes, even infantry ones).
8/ Take transition advice from the guys still in with a grain of salt.
It might come from a good place, but they have yet to walk that path. So, talk to people who have already made the transition.
9/ The military will keep rolling along without you.
Your primary mission now is to transition successfully. Your squad won't be transitioning out with you. The army will keep rolling along.
10/ Joining the National Guard is one of the best ways to transition out.
The Guard eases you back into the civilian world. Having a consistent place that has people who have the same experience and speak the same language will help you feel less lost in the civilian world.
11/ No plan survives first contact.
Having a plan will get you started, but METT-TC and the fifth principle of patrolling (common sense) will keep you moving.